Tell Em Why You're Mad Mondays: I AM NOT CRAZY!

If we are friends & you are doing something I dislike & we talk about it & it doesn't get fixed, why are you soooo shocked or confuse or want to describe my behavior as irrational when I ask & take space. Why am I crazy when I say “I’m done” & I don’t want to talk circles around it anymore?

It really pisses me off when men do this, especially. It’s triggering.

My whole life, I’ve been hearing men dismiss & describe women's emotions as crazy, irrational, childish, hormonal... 

I'm tired of men getting a pass in introspection bc they think women are crazy. 

I am also tired of women who propagate this malepatriarchalprivilegebullshit. 

Can we just honor the fact that my knowing is not your knowing? 

But, when I make a very rational statement that says, “I cannot be in this relationship bc it isn’t authentic to who I am & what I believe in,” you somehow dismiss my truth as me having housing & money problems. 

Yea, I got those & these conversation doesn’t make it any easier, but that shit has nothing to do with your lack of transparency in relationship to this one thing that is major to me. 

Come on, Ninja.  Please do you one better & stop trying to convince me that I am crazy. I don’t dispute that. 

I know I am crazy. If I was sane in this fucked up society, I would be complicit & full of ignorance.  I would still be in an emotionally abusive relationship with you.

I am not the one to over-explain. I prefer to give you the cold shoulder. I have standards & after 2-3 conversations you should get why I am done.

Emotional intelligence is important. It’s all of our guides & if this ish don’t feel right, I’m out to something else that does… 

& usually that is just me.